You want a therapist who has a compatible worldview with yours.
You were nervous coming to therapy in the first place. You’ve heard it can take a while to find someone who is a "good fit." You wonder if it's even harder for a secular person. You notice the salt lamp in the corner and the cross around the therapist's neck almost immediately. Your mind starts racing, and you ask yourself a thousand questions:
What other pseudoscience does this person believe in?
How religious is this person and will it affect the psychotherapy I receive from them?
Are they going to eventually let me down by suggesting something woo-y or bullshit to address my concerns?
Are they going to offend me and say my loved one is "in a better place" or "God has a plan?"
Am I wasting my time here or will this person actually help me?
Ultimately, what you're really asking yourself is "Can I trust this person?” and "Do I feel safe here?"
You're not coming to therapy because you're secular, but it'd be nice if that part of you was respected and in sync with your therapist.
Anxiety is a Crappy Companion.
What's really making you seek help is that things aren't going the way you'd hoped. You can't remember the last time you got a good night of sleep. You can feel the tension and exhaustion in your body. You're on edge from the constant overwhelm.
Racing thoughts spiral one worry into something much bigger, cluttering your mind and stressing you out. The present moment is long gone. Fight or flight is supposed to be temporary, but lately it seems to be your default mode. This is unsustainable.
You're feeling less connected with the people in your life. You're distracted and your loved ones have come to expect that they have to repeat things to you. They can see your thoughts are somewhere else. It's hard to engage with people when you've got so much on your mind. You find yourself irritable and snapping at others more than you used to.
Generally, you're able to fake it at work. You're smart and a high performer, so no one notices. But you know it's been difficult to focus lately. You're not as productive as you used to be.
The last thing you want is to not live up to your potential, to waste the one life you have feeling miserable. Deep down, you know these symptoms are holding you back, and something needs to change. Perhaps you're wondering if your recent feelings are only scratching the surface. Maybe there are some fears you haven't fully acknowledged or some difficult questions you need to ask yourself.
Am I living the life I want to? What exactly do I want?
You don't have time to waste with a therapist who doesn't understand you or has a worldview that incorporates pseudoscience or the supernatural.
Your intelligence and critical thinking has historically taken you far, and while they're great resources, they're not enough right now. You can't logic your way into resolving this issue. Despite your best efforts, tackling this problem alone hasn't worked thus far.
Help begins with a consult call.
Going to therapy is an act of vulnerability. It can feel especially scary if you aren't certain you can trust the person sitting across from you. I strive to be open, honest, and transparent with my clients. I consider you to be the expert on your own life, and me to be the expert on the therapeutic process and the psychological science.
Together, we’ll explore who you are, what matters most to you, and how to move you toward a life that feels intentional and fulfilling. Therapy can help you quiet the mental noise, reconnect with your values, and start enjoying life again. You don’t need to settle for a therapist who doesn’t “get” you.
What the Process Looks Like
Free 15-Minute Consultation Call - We’ll chat via video call briefly to determine if we’re a good fit, and I'll answer any initial questions you may have.
Initial Online Intake Session (50–55 minutes) - We’ll explore what brings you to therapy, your personal history, and then identify your treatment needs and goals.
Science-Based Treatment Plan - I’ll create an individualized plan rooted in research, and we’ll discuss it together.
Ongoing Online Psychotherapy Sessions - We’ll meet online regularly to help you move toward your goals, adjusting the plan as needed.
Termination - As you get closer to meeting your goals, we'll develop a plan for how we end our work together.
